Have you ever wondered what it would feel like living someone else’s life? Maybe just experience one day of freaky Friday to see if the other person’s life that you are desiring is really as great as it looks? You know the old adage of putting yourself in someone else’s shoes? Well I haven’t had that particular experience before and honestly I hope that I won’t. Because that would mean someone else has to take my life for a ride as well and who knows what they might discover.
I have had this desire before of wishing for a different life other than my own. I am pretty sure that you have also had this wish. But for me it was more the desire of having the things that appeared to make the other people happy, or the experience that looks so great on the “gram” and not necessarily be them. And I really want to lay emphasis on the word “appear” because I myself am considered to be a master of a con artist (self considered of course ;-) ). A true chameleon in this experience we call life. I have many different masks, a different prop or costume for various different occasions and never underestimate the power of illusion. And by no way am I pretending to be someone I am not, it is just that…..I am not all of me at once all the time but rather partial to the situation. Because what I believed about myself was that I have to be this type of person in this type of situation but why can’t I be all of me? Am I that scared that I am not merely as good enough as I am hoping to be?
See what we often desire from others are their masks not their lives, because it looks so pretty on the outside, but we perceive that to be what must surely be a reflection of the inside?
This is also a false perception of what happiness must be, turning happiness into the ever chase of carrots on sticks hoping that one day when we finally catch that carrot, life will be merely bliss and all will be well. Yet when the storms of life come and that carrot is starting to dangle in front of us it is time for us to realize that the carrot is merely a carrot on a stick an no security blanket like we have made it out to be. But you see, even if you catch the carrot, it doesn’t change you. All that’s changed is that you are now insecure and unhappy with a carrot in your hand wishing you had a turnip.
What we truly desire most is not the thing, the car, more money, a better body. Not that wanting any of it is wrong. There is nothing wrong in being ambitious and having cool stuff, but when the stuff has you…. NO we are truly desiring the acceptance of others and I think at times the acceptance and approval of ourselves. A wise friend told me once that others are more willing to accept you if you have accepted yourself first.
Let me tell you out of experience that more stuff, more money, a slimmer or more muscular figure will never make you more happy or self fulfilled. If you can’t accept yourself, you will always be chasing an empty life. When you first realize that you are created beautiful and enough as you are then only will you realize what a rich and full life you have without a lot of things. I would also bet that you would reach a far greater potential than you ever imagined possible, simply because your focus is not on trying to live some else’s life, but your own. As the cliche saying goes, “The world does not need another copy of someone else, it merely needs you”. You don’t know what that other person went through, nor what mask they are wearing today. So why not stop comparing and start loving yourself, you’ll make a far greater contribution to the world if you are you.
